Hope

Prior to October of 2006, I felt no main attraction or chemistry with any female who had entered my life. Those few months before the start of October, I didn't click with any girl I was talking to. However, ever since then, I find myself confused. What is one to do when he comes across attraction which he cannot act on?

Let's build a scenario. Chris and John are best friends, and John has recently left his girlfriend, Amy. If Chris and Amy build a stronger friendship after the break up, and find themselves interested in one another, should Chris pursue Amy? Should he ask John for approval? How long should he wait? Should he even consider it? Or, let's say, Joe and Jack are cousins. Jack's cousin, Susie, who is not in any way related to Joe, finds herself attracted to him. Should Joe and Susie be allowed to have the chance to think about a relationship? Is it wrong?

I'm Chris and Joe. Not in this specific scenario, but something along these lines. I think when we chase something we know we will never achieve, whether it's a girl or a dream in life, and something decent presents itself, we tend to find ourselves more attracted towards it. For example, if I have been chasing a girl for years, and trying to start a relationship with her, but have always failed; and another girl comes along, who is just as great, should I step aside from the dream girl and pursue the newly encountered girl? Some would say yes, but I have been wondering. Why let go? Why not pursue the dream girl? After all, we are told to chase our dreams, because we are led to believe one day we will reach them. Maybe we won't ever be able to reach these dreams, but the fact that you might, gives you hope every day to keep moving. And maybe all we need in life is hope, and the belief that one day we will reach those dreams.

This is an excerpt from "The Da Vinci Code" by Dan Brown:

Robert: "Those who truly understand their faiths understand the stories are metaphorical."

Sophie: "My friends who are devout Christians definitely believe that Christ literally walked on water, literally turned water into wine, and was born a literal virgin birth."

Robert: "My point exactly. Religious allegory has become a part of the fabric of reality. And living in that reality helps millions of people cope and be better people."

Sophie: "But it appears their reality is false."

I don't mean to involve religion with relationships, but I see a connection as far as "chasing dreams" go. Maybe we believe in religion just to have a reason everyday to wake up and keep living. And maybe, just maybe, it's the same with relationships.